The Sex Life of Us - Part Two

You're safer to have sex with a prostitute, as silly as it sounds, than you are to go to a bar and pick up a girl.

– Brian Le Gros, owner of strip club and brothel The White House, on condom use being widespread in the sex industry

I didn't tell my parents officially until my twenties, and when I did they said they'd already known for about seven years. There was no issues, they've always been very supportive of myself and partners — very welcoming.

– Alan on telling his parents he was gay

In those days, teenage pregnancies would not have been perceived as a teenage pregnancy as such. It would have been perceived as whakapapa, an addition to a whānau. In terms of today's thinking, when we think about teenage pregnancies, we're actually thinking about a young Māori girl, who's actually gotten pregnant, with no family support, (and) is going to become a beneficiary of the state ... because of the fragmentation of family, there are no longer those support systems in place, where the grandparents would have take the firstborn ... where the aunty or the uncle would have provided some care...

– Karanga Morgan, from kaupapa Māori health service Te Puāwai Tapu, on on changing attitudes to teenage pregnancies in Māori communities

Now you can't talk about all of this without talking about faking them — something I'm completely unfamiliar with.

– Co-presenter Mike King on faking orgasms

We need a whole lot more openess in order for people to be well-informed. No one teaches us how to make love. And we need information.

– Psychologist and sex therapist Robyn Salisbury

...do we enjoy it? Sixty-one percent of men always enjoy it, and 40 percent of women. But 10 percent of women seldom or never enjoy sex, and three percent of men feel the same.

– Mike King breaks down the Kiwi statistics of enjoyment of sex

Shall I try now?

– Te Radar offers to fake an orgasm onstage

If it is your inner truth to willingly pleasure your partner, then yes, that's great, that's a lovely thing to do for a relationship. But, if what's sitting in your heart or in your gut is 'ugh, I don’t want this,' you need to say so.

– Psychologist and sex therapist Robyn Salisbury on pressure to pleasure one's partner

...The management [of STDs] has to be educational. It's not me writing a prescription — it's educational. It's communication.

– Dr Shane Reti on handling sexually transmitted diseases

Women are certainly different to guys because most women say "oh, it doesn't matter." But, men don't believe that. I don't believe it...

– Graham Lowe, Men's Health campaigner, on women saying erection problems/erectile dysfunction don't matter

...the first contact that I ever had with a boy, I think everybody sort of knew the game Catch and Kiss, that I realised I should have been on the opposite side of the fence.

– Victoria Secrets recounts her first experience with a boy

Well, my husband and I just touch each other in our private parts to show each other we still love one another. I always feel if we can't do the act, there are other ways, by touching. It's just as good.

– 75-year-old Connie proves age doesn't matter

Yeah, I believe gay people are probably more sexually liberated ... not only gay people, but I think they certainly experiment a lot more.

– Peter

When I was growing up, it was very tapu where Māori were concerned: you do not talk about anything below your waist, and you do not talk about your private parts. Now they do, and I don't see anything wrong in it.

– Connie (aged 75) on changing attitudes among Māori to talking about sex, near the end of this special

I left [home] as a 14-year-old, and went straight into Auckland city, into K' Road and top of Queen Street, and [thought] "Oh, my god, I'm not the only one…there's all these other people out here too." And so that sort of gay community became my whānau, really. They were my support, and they were the ones that, you know, kind of showed me that it was okay, and that you didn’t have to conform ... it was a real eye-opener for me to discover that I wasn't the only one, and that I wasn't the only Māori that was gay — and that was huge.

– Peter on being accepted into another community after coming out